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Know Your Worth

Good morning, good afternoon, good whatever time it is that you are reading this. The start of another week is finally upon us so as always, happy Monday. I can’t speak for everybody, but I’m really excited about this week. It’s definitely a super busy week, but honestly, I love to be booked and busy. I just know this is going to be a week full of tests and opportunities. With that being said, there’s really no better week to remind you guys, and myself, to know your worth!

It can be so easy to get comfortable in places that accept you. I’m not just talking about work; you can get comfortable in a specific area, in a relationship, in a mind set, at a pay grade, literally any situation that is accepting can become comfortable. Knowing your worth is knowing when to leave comfort. Being comfortable or feeling secure in a situation that is no longer benefiting you can really become detrimental. The biggest part of knowing your worth, in my opinion, is knowing when to move on.

There are things that are meant to last for life. Things like true love and peace are qualities that we should strive to keep forever. Now that 9-5 that won’t give you a decent raise after all the years and skill you’ve put in; that relationship you’ve been in all this time that’s not producing more than a headache and an occasional good time; that house you’re renting that always has 100 things wrong with it and your landlord is giving you shit about fixing it; those are the kinds of places where you’re apparent comfort is costing more than it’s paying you. Those are the situations where you need to either demand what you’re worth (and settle for NOTHING less) or find a new position for yourself.

There are opportunities meant specifically for you; rooms that your feet are meant to enter, places that your eyes are meant to see, experiences that you’re supposed to live and be a testament for; but you’ll never make it there if you don’t know your worth. People will put limits on you that are less than what you’re worth, and at the expense of comfort, you’ll end up settling for those limitations. Now I’m not saying you should go quit your job if they refuse to give you a raise, I’m not saying you should let your mouth write checks that your ass can’t cash, but you know what you have to offer. You know what you should be getting in return for your work, for your love, for your time. It’s not always a price in dollars and cents, but sometimes it’s as simple as getting around new people in a new environment.

Let this week be good to you. Let this be a week that you really consider what you’re worth and what you’ve been getting. If you find that you’re in a position where you’re not getting a proper return on your investment (whatever you’re investing in that situation) then it’s time to find a situation that better suits you. It may be scary and it may be uncomfortable and it may be outside of your norm, but there are people that are willing to give you everything you want plus some. You just have to know what you want. So make this week the starting point of knowing your worth and not settling for anything less than.

I hope everyone has a great Monday, a great and safe week, a week full of blessings and opportunities. Know your worth this week and have a very happy Monday!

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Take A Stand

Good morning my beautiful people. Here we are again at the beginning of another week. I hope everyone’s weekend was splendid and you all got the rest you needed to head into this new week the right way. Here in Georgia, today marks the first day for early voting. With election day only right around the corner, I want today’s inspiration to be one that you use not just at work or school, but also at the polls. This week’s theme and the motivation to get us through the week, it’s time to take a stand.

I know how easy it is to get caught up in the way things are going sometimes. In this day, it’s so easy to feel discouraged and defeated, but I’m here to tell you do not falter! Whatever it is you believe in, stand up for it. We’ve all been in so many testy situations; things that may make you question how you feel or what you believe, but if you believe it, stand firm on it! I believe in Jesus and equality and respect and hard work and human decency and southern hospitality; and even though everybody doesn’t believe in the same things as me, it doesn’t change what I believe in.

We know the difference between right and wrong. We know what’s expected of each of us, and even though everyone may not want to admit it, we know what we expect of every other person too. I’m not saying that we should all believe in all of the same stuff. There’s a lot we can agree to disagree on. One thing that stands true regardless, without any solid beliefs, you’ll always be lost and susceptible to being mislead. Alexander Hamilton once said, “those who stand for nothing fall for anything.” It’s so important to have principles and beliefs that you stand on!

So this week, as we move into placing ballots, and just through our daily lives, let’s be sure to stand for something. Everything in life is not simply black and white, but certain things are and it’s important to choose which side of those things you’re on. Regardless of what you believe, let those beliefs be your boundaries, your foundation, and your sense of solidarity as you wander through life. Don’t turn from your beliefs, don’t be swayed another way; it’s okay to believe differently than others as long as you’re respectful about the fact that they are just as entitled to their beliefs as you are. We’ve talked about setting boundaries and being kind; all these things intertwine on a daily basis, especially now as we talk about standing in your own beliefs. Be sure to stand for what you believe in, and even though you may disagree with someone else’s beliefs, you should expect them to also stand in theirs. This Monday and this election season, and really the rest of our lives, we should stand firm with heads held high in our beliefs; and in this season of change, let’s simply be kind to others, pray for others, and respect that all people simply will not believe the exact same things as you.

I hope everyone has a great day, a great week, and during this election season please stand for something or fall for anything that comes. Remember GO VOTE!!!

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Do It With Passion

“There is no passion to be found in playing small- in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living,” a word from Nelson Mandela. I’ve spent my whole life writing. I wrote in my journals and for my classes and for other people. Writing is a thing that I’ve undoubtedly always been passionate about. Until just recently, I never thought that my writing really meant much. I always knew I was good, I knew that people showered my work with compliments, completely in awe whenever they read it, or I read it for them.

When I went to college, I originally majored in chemistry. I figured I could always write on the side without a degree, so I went with what I liked and where the money would be. By the end of my second chemistry class, I was MISERABLE! I almost had enough credits to start my junior year, and I decided to essentially start over. I changed my major to English; my school didn’t offer courses in creative writing, and I knew that’s what I wanted to do, but I settled. One semester later, I was back in the same predicament, MISERABLE! So I figured I’d take a semester off, and try again in the spring; the third time was definitely a charm for me. I decided to drop out and try to find a path outside of school.

I got a job, started participating in open mic performances, finished writing my first book, got an apartment, things were going well for me. I wasn’t miserable at every turn anymore; not until I decided to focus on a career and put my writing aside again. This isn’t meant to be a life story, but this is my testament. It took a lot of praying, so many sacrifices, trial and error, and a whole lot of doing things wrong, but when I finally decided to follow my passion, I found true pleasure, true happiness. I’m not at all saying that this is the easy path, but it’s been the most rewarding.

I’ve lived a short life, but God gave me a gift that has not only empowered me, but so many other people. We all have a gift, a fire that burns inside of us regardless of how much we try to put it out; we’re all passionate about something. Every move isn’t about the money. We so often hear so many stories of people coming from nowhere, sleeping in their cars, no job, no money, just following the light that their little fires created. When you work in passion, everything else falls into place.

This week, let’s focus on getting back into those things that we’re passionate about. Let’s try to take out some time to pray and focus and study on our passions. Sometimes, the best move you can make is a move based in faith; faith without action is dead. Allow yourself to indulge in those little things that really ignite your fire. “You have to be burning with an idea , or a problem… If you’re not passionate enough from the start, you’ll never stick it out.” (Steve Jobs)

If you take nothing else from this, take this and hold it tightly: “Whatever you do, do it with passion and everything else will come to you.” Have a great day, a great week, a great month, and a great time burning that fire.

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Be Filled

Back like we never left, good morning, good afternoon, good whatever time it is that you’re reading this post. I don’t want to make this a long a drawn out post. The painfully honest truth is, I don’t have a whole lot of words for today; so this post may look light, but trust me it’s heavy enough to get us through this week.

I am so blessed man. I want to start by reminding every one that we all are so blessed. This year has really been one for the books. It’s not every lifetime that people can say they’ve had as much action as we’ve had in 2020. Even with all the things that have been going on this year, here we are on this 21st day of the 9th month of this year. There are so many people that haven’t made it this far. There were so many days this year, I’m sure we all wondered if we would make it this far, but yet, here we are. Thank God, we are here.

Honestly, it’s been rough for the world. These times are unlike anything we’ve ever known. We are faced with a trifecta of movements going on; politics are in flames, race wars seem to be on the horizons, even natural disasters have come and shown face all year long. We have been flooded, fueled and overwhelmed by everything from mass media to daily life. If you let it, these things can become a source of fear and paranoia, but we can conquer that.

In light of all the ways of the world, my point for this week is to be kind. I don’t only mean be kind to others, but be kind to yourself. Allow yourself spaces to breathe and speak. Surround yourself with laughter and love, even if it’s via Zoom calls or quality time with your bed and your favorite movie. Speak kind words to yourself and others; greet yourself in the morning when you wake up, breathe a breath of fresh air on your way to work. Just be kind. Remember to pour back into yourself all the things that the world has been taking from you. As much as I encourage pouring into others, you can’t fill anyone if you have an empty cup. So this week, remember to fill your cup, ask God to fill your cup and allow yourself to be full.

As always, have a great day, have a great week, and happy Monday!

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Ever Been In A Rut?: An Edit and Re-post

A couple months ago I wrote a post about being in a rut. I posted it and it was super relevant then, but the thing is, it’s always relevant for me and I’m sure for other people as well. So without further ado, here it is, edited and re-posted for today’s Monday Motivation: “Ever Been In A Rut?”

Recently, I’ve been in a rut… again. I’ve been starting things that I’m not finishing, losing interest in most things, waking up in the middle of the night and sleeping until the middle of the day when I can; even despite my recent productivity, I still haven’t felt like doing anything. The thing is though, this is just kind of how my condition works for me. Sometimes I’m really inspired and on top of my game. I can be productive and come up with piece after piece after piece for a while; a couple days usually, but one time I made it through a full month. I was happy that month; life was kicking my ass, but love kept me happy.

The true issue is my bad days. Everybody has them, but nobody ever really talks about them. My bad days come and sweep me off my feet. There are days that get so bad that I don’t want to get out of the bed, I don’t want to talk and I don’t want to be bothered. Some days, I have to call out of work. There are days that I don’t get out of the bed and I forget to eat. When I have bad days, they’re not just bad, they are horrible. Horrible days make for horrible feelings, horrible work ethic and horribly produced work.

The thing that keeps me going is knowing that ruts don’t last. Personally, I have a support system. They don’t know everything going on, but they’re always there. They love me and push me and worry about me even when I forget to do it myself. I have a support system, and even though I try not to reach out too often, they’re there. I couldn’t imagine not having that, but I know that everyone doesn’t have that.

I have a friend that I can call for motivation and someone I can call for when I’m feeling crazy and someone I can call when I just need to laugh. I do understand that I don’t necessarily have a very large audience right now, but I know I can’t be the only person that has these tendencies the way that I have them. I know I’m not the only person that needs some external motivation when things get bad. So for anyone that may need it, here it is.

Everyday that you wake up, take baby steps. You have a dream. It may be just getting through that day, but whatever the dream is, take small steps. I have a dream that is so huge that I often feel overwhelmed or drowning in self expectations. I don’t know how to get to it my dream, I just see myself there. So when I wake up in the morning, I brush my teeth, I let my dog out, I make my bed everyday. I take each one of those things as a win, as a step forward. I’m so excited that I’ve gotten to the point that I remember to eat more than once everyday. Before the end of the day, it’s been a success if I could muster up the will to wash the dishes. That’s how I get through the bad days, and the good. That is my advice. It’s advice that we all know and that we’ve all heard, but some of us need to hear it more often and from different sources.

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do you get through your days? Start by making your bed. And surround yourself by people that can remind you of these things when you don’t have the strength to remind yourself.

On this Monday, the start of this week, let’s try to be the person that encourages our friends. Let’s try to reach out and check on people that we haven’t talked to lately. Let’s uplift others. And if you don’t have it in you to genuinely uplift anybody else this week, that’s okay; but remember to uplift yourself. Remember to take your baby steps, remember to take one bite at a time and have a great, safe, and blessed week.

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Starting Over… Again

Well, it’s definitely been a while since I’ve been on here. I’ve been trying to make modifications to the site and keep up with life outside of my laptop screen. In these months, I’ve embarked on some new adventures and epiphanies and just learning overall. I’ve invested more into myself and turning this from a blog to a business. There are a few key points that I’ve come across that I want to share though; things that I think everyone needs to hear at one point or another.

First things first, keep your priorities together. Things in my life are ordered: God, self, family, others. My faith is so important to me. I have suffered from my fair share of downs and lows, as is the way life works. I’ve allowed myself to be consumed in things that tested my faith and faithfulness. Being able to turn back to my relationship with God has saved me everyday. I’ve also learned that I can’t keep putting everyone ahead of myself. It’s okay to be selfless without putting yourself last. Keeping healthy relationships with the people in my life has also been critical to keeping peace with myself. I heard wise words once that said, “whether by blood or water, God puts certain people in your life to get you where you need to be.”

My next big point is don’t be consumed by your “plans”. I’m not at all saying that you shouldn’t have plans for your life, but I am saying that sometimes your “plans” constrain you and don’t allow you to reach your full potential. Be open to new things, sticks in the road, the longer way around sometimes. I planned a whole skew of things for my life. If I was on track with my original plan, I’d be on my way to med school, miserable! Being able to reevaluate your plans and make sure that they align and grow with you is so important. I’m happy where I am right now in life. I may not have the degree that I originally planned for, but I live on my own, I have a good job, I have a growing spiritual relationship, and I’m living my life. This is the part of my life where I’m smelling the roses; don’t forget to give your plans a chance to smell the roses.

Finally, and probably the most important thing I’ve come to terms with recently is it’s okay to start over. I used to think that starting over was a sign of failure and a sign that I was “behind”. The truth is actually the contrary. Starting over is supposed to happen; the key is to just start better. Every thing in life is a chance to learn and grow; start over with a new mindset, a new piece of information, a more elevated point of view, and watch how you get different results. Make sure that you apply what you learned the last time and be willing to keep starting over. Be wiling to learn a new trade, a new skill, a new opinion on things even. This is the third time I’ve started over on this blog alone and every time I’ve grown more in my knowledge, skill, and resilience. Be proud of starting over, own your mistakes and apply the lessons. Be intentional, be open, be faithful, and believe in yourself and your ability to succeed in due time.