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Take Care of Yourself

I’m going to just be painfully honest, I have been out of it lately. I’m not entirely sure what it is, but I have definitely not been feeling like myself. While I may be the only one going through it right now, I know we can all get a case of the winter blues. The good news though, it doesn’t last forever.

Mental health awareness is so important. Especially in the black community, mental health issues are often looked over or described as something else because most of us have been taught that it’s not a black issue. The truth is, everyone can be affected by mental health issues; including us black folk. As offsetting as it can be, it’s okay to not always be okay.

Recently I’ve been feeling like I can barely keep my head above water. I’m always busy, I always have something to do or somewhere to be, it feels like my life is going 100mph and I can’t keep up. This is a thing I go through sometimes, especially as a creative and an empath. I sometimes feel like I’m carrying the weight of the world. I know I’m not the only person feeling this way though. So I want to offer some advice that gets me through times like this.

Firstly, everyday is simply not the best day ever. It’s normal to have days that throw you off a bit. On days like that, take some extra time for yourself. Brush your hair, take a longer shower, eat your favorite food, read a book, go to sleep early; whatever makes you feel lighter.

Second, sometimes God puts us in uncomfortable places in order to prepare us for our next destination. Remember that just because it may be new or uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s necessarily bad; keep an open mind to things. I know how hard it can be to stay open to everything, and I know so many of us are set on “that isn’t for me.” Thats okay, but try it out just in case your opinion has changed; stay positive about newness for as long as you can.

Finally and most importantly, be honest with yourself. If you need help, it’s okay to go get some. There are all kinds of people you can talk to and things you can do to deal with mental health issues. I have a therapist but, I know some people that have a trainer and they workout to get through their rough patches. Whatever works for you, be proactive about your mental health. You can’t be the best version of yourself on the outside unless you handle what’s going on inside of yourself.

It’s okay to not be okay. It happens to all of us at least sometimes. Things can often get to be too much. The key is to take care of yourself, protect your peace, and keep your boundaries. It’s so easy to get caught up and bogged down by the ways of the world, and that’s why it’s so important to make sure that you’re putting yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty cup so let’s make sure we’re doing our best to keep our cups filled and filled with the right things.

Let’s make this a good week. Confront whatever it is bothering you and keep putting yourself first. Take care of yourselves, and remember, if you can’t fix it on your own, it’s okay to get some help. We all need help from time to time. I hope this is the reminder that you needed to get your week started off right. Be safe, be blessed, be healthy and as always, have a happy Monday!

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Starting Over… Again

Well, it’s definitely been a while since I’ve been on here. I’ve been trying to make modifications to the site and keep up with life outside of my laptop screen. In these months, I’ve embarked on some new adventures and epiphanies and just learning overall. I’ve invested more into myself and turning this from a blog to a business. There are a few key points that I’ve come across that I want to share though; things that I think everyone needs to hear at one point or another.

First things first, keep your priorities together. Things in my life are ordered: God, self, family, others. My faith is so important to me. I have suffered from my fair share of downs and lows, as is the way life works. I’ve allowed myself to be consumed in things that tested my faith and faithfulness. Being able to turn back to my relationship with God has saved me everyday. I’ve also learned that I can’t keep putting everyone ahead of myself. It’s okay to be selfless without putting yourself last. Keeping healthy relationships with the people in my life has also been critical to keeping peace with myself. I heard wise words once that said, “whether by blood or water, God puts certain people in your life to get you where you need to be.”

My next big point is don’t be consumed by your “plans”. I’m not at all saying that you shouldn’t have plans for your life, but I am saying that sometimes your “plans” constrain you and don’t allow you to reach your full potential. Be open to new things, sticks in the road, the longer way around sometimes. I planned a whole skew of things for my life. If I was on track with my original plan, I’d be on my way to med school, miserable! Being able to reevaluate your plans and make sure that they align and grow with you is so important. I’m happy where I am right now in life. I may not have the degree that I originally planned for, but I live on my own, I have a good job, I have a growing spiritual relationship, and I’m living my life. This is the part of my life where I’m smelling the roses; don’t forget to give your plans a chance to smell the roses.

Finally, and probably the most important thing I’ve come to terms with recently is it’s okay to start over. I used to think that starting over was a sign of failure and a sign that I was “behind”. The truth is actually the contrary. Starting over is supposed to happen; the key is to just start better. Every thing in life is a chance to learn and grow; start over with a new mindset, a new piece of information, a more elevated point of view, and watch how you get different results. Make sure that you apply what you learned the last time and be willing to keep starting over. Be wiling to learn a new trade, a new skill, a new opinion on things even. This is the third time I’ve started over on this blog alone and every time I’ve grown more in my knowledge, skill, and resilience. Be proud of starting over, own your mistakes and apply the lessons. Be intentional, be open, be faithful, and believe in yourself and your ability to succeed in due time.