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Be Thankful

Another new day, another new week, another new Monday. I know it may be corny, and everyone is talking about it, but what better week to talk about being thankful than this one? Thanksgiving is this Thursday and it will admittedly be different than any Thanksgiving a lot of us have ever had. This whole year has been different than any we’ve ever had. So as we are officially in holiday season, I want to encourage everyone to be thankful.

Holidays season is the most festive season of the year. Most of us wait all year for this time to come around. The weather is colder, the kids are out of school, we get a break from work, and this is the time of year when we really get to enjoy each other. Well, that’s normally the case. With the Covid cases back on the rise and flu season in full effect, this is going to be a rather socially distant holiday for a lot of us. Wearing masks to family functions, not inviting the whole family, not traveling, and some people are just not doing anything at all. Nevertheless, this is still a time to be thankful.

In the U.S., there have been an average of about 100,000 new Covid cases reported per day for the last week. This virus has been just one of the things running rampant this year as police brutality was at a public high too. Most of the people dying of Covid are black. We’re also at the top of the unemployment list as jobs continue to downsize due to Coronavirus. We have a child throwing tantrums in the White House. Yet, we’re here to read and share this post and so many people haven’t made it this far. I know that most of us have suffered personal loss this year and it’s hard, but it’s okay.

It’s so easy to get caught up in all the bad that’s been going on. It’s so easy to be overwhelmed with the world right now. But this year offered you a lot more of what was important. It offered time to rest, yes we may have been out of work for a while, but that job was killing us anyways. It offered time for family; yes we haven’t been able to travel much or see everyone we wanted to, but we got to spend time with those in our house and sit up all night on zoom calls catching up with everybody all at once. It offered time for creativity; everything was closed at one point, but all the canvases and paint sold out of Walmart and all the good notebooks were out of stock too.

This year was a reset; it forced us to slow down, to look up from the screens, to get active in our communities, to get active in our lives. I have honestly enjoyed this year quite a bit. I found a love for hiking, I invested into my business and got it off the ground, I went to therapy, I went to protests and I found new foods to cook, and I have new paintings for my walls. God has carried us through this year and we’ve made it so far and through so much. Yet, this has been one of the best years of my life. Even with all the loss, I was able to find myself this year and I think that if everyone takes a moment to look back, you’d notice how much you have to be thankful for too!

So I wish you a happy Monday, and I wish you a happy week, and I wish you a happy Thanksgiving. I hope that you remain safe, you remain well, and you remain thankful!! Let’s have a great week!

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Lacking Motivation?

It’s the beginning of the week again. Here we are, faced with yet another Monday. It’s not the worst day in the world for most of us today. We are able to see another week, we have another chance to start over; some people had plans for today, but they didn’t make it this far. So let’s try to be grateful for this Monday. Now while I know that being grateful is the easy part, what do we do about the days where we just don’t have the motivation to do anything except wake up and be grateful and go back to sleep? How do we deal with a lack of motivation?

It happens to everyone; some days you wake up and you just don’t feel like it. There’s a lot of things that can lead to a lack of motivation. Stress, diet, exhaustion, illness, lack of inspiration and an array of other things can cause us to simply not want to do whatever needs to be done. The good news is, nobody expects you to be pep squad captain everyday. There are ways to get past a lack of motivation. These are a couple of the steps I take when I’m feeling undermotivated.

Firstly, it’s important to try to identify what’s causing you to not be motivated. Most recently for me, I have been SUPER exhausted. Most days I wake up and it feels like i haven’t slept more than 20 minutes. As frustrating as it can be, I know that I’ve been unmotivated because I haven’t been resting well. That’s where the second step comes in.

After identifying what’s making you feel like you do, try to make a plan to tackle it. It’s hard to get anything done without the proper motivation and it’s not always easy to jumpstart that motivation. Find something that will combat the cause. So for example, if you’re feeling exhausted, try to take a lighter workload for a couple days or drink some tea before bed to help you sleep through the night and feel refreshed in the morning.

The last bit of advice I have is to take care of yourself. Make sure that you’re not putting too much pressure on yourself. Take time to reflect and relax. You can’t perform well if you aren’t at your best. Take care of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

It happens to all of us, but it’s important to know when to fight through it and when to give yourself a break. This week, let’s focus on getting back our motivation. Do some yoga, eat your favorite food, whatever works for you. Have a happy, safe, and warm Monday. We can do this again next week!

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Take Care of Yourself

I’m going to just be painfully honest, I have been out of it lately. I’m not entirely sure what it is, but I have definitely not been feeling like myself. While I may be the only one going through it right now, I know we can all get a case of the winter blues. The good news though, it doesn’t last forever.

Mental health awareness is so important. Especially in the black community, mental health issues are often looked over or described as something else because most of us have been taught that it’s not a black issue. The truth is, everyone can be affected by mental health issues; including us black folk. As offsetting as it can be, it’s okay to not always be okay.

Recently I’ve been feeling like I can barely keep my head above water. I’m always busy, I always have something to do or somewhere to be, it feels like my life is going 100mph and I can’t keep up. This is a thing I go through sometimes, especially as a creative and an empath. I sometimes feel like I’m carrying the weight of the world. I know I’m not the only person feeling this way though. So I want to offer some advice that gets me through times like this.

Firstly, everyday is simply not the best day ever. It’s normal to have days that throw you off a bit. On days like that, take some extra time for yourself. Brush your hair, take a longer shower, eat your favorite food, read a book, go to sleep early; whatever makes you feel lighter.

Second, sometimes God puts us in uncomfortable places in order to prepare us for our next destination. Remember that just because it may be new or uncomfortable doesn’t mean it’s necessarily bad; keep an open mind to things. I know how hard it can be to stay open to everything, and I know so many of us are set on “that isn’t for me.” Thats okay, but try it out just in case your opinion has changed; stay positive about newness for as long as you can.

Finally and most importantly, be honest with yourself. If you need help, it’s okay to go get some. There are all kinds of people you can talk to and things you can do to deal with mental health issues. I have a therapist but, I know some people that have a trainer and they workout to get through their rough patches. Whatever works for you, be proactive about your mental health. You can’t be the best version of yourself on the outside unless you handle what’s going on inside of yourself.

It’s okay to not be okay. It happens to all of us at least sometimes. Things can often get to be too much. The key is to take care of yourself, protect your peace, and keep your boundaries. It’s so easy to get caught up and bogged down by the ways of the world, and that’s why it’s so important to make sure that you’re putting yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty cup so let’s make sure we’re doing our best to keep our cups filled and filled with the right things.

Let’s make this a good week. Confront whatever it is bothering you and keep putting yourself first. Take care of yourselves, and remember, if you can’t fix it on your own, it’s okay to get some help. We all need help from time to time. I hope this is the reminder that you needed to get your week started off right. Be safe, be blessed, be healthy and as always, have a happy Monday!

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Allow Growth

Good morning all my beautiful people! It’s another Monday and what better day to get a good message for the week. This is such an important week in our country, but I couldn’t find a better week to start this conversation. With election day being this Tuesday, November 3, I hope everyone has either already voted or has made a plan to go out tomorrow and do your part. Now that we’re past the “remember to vote if you haven’t” part of today’s message, let’s get into the juicy stuff. This week I want to focus on allowing growth.

In a recent IGTV post, comedian Amanda Seals made a statement on the importance of allowing people to make mistakes and grow from them. Watching that video actually gave me the inspiration to write this post. Although she was speaking on the presidential candidates and politics when she made her post, it doesn’t change the fact that it still applies to our regular everyday lives.

We’ve all been there, holding on to a mistake; something that seemed good in the moment, but was ridiculous in hindsight. The question is always “how can I be better,” “what could I have done differently”, but the truth is there’s nothing. In Amanda’s video, she talked about how easy it is to speak in hindsight and that’s so true. Looking back, it’s always so easy to say I should have done this or I should’ve said that, but we only work in the moment; we can only control our moments.

In our moments, often enough, we mess up. It’s okay to mess up, as long as once we realize our mistakes, we allow ourselves a chance to learn and grow from those mistakes. Allowing growth is a thing that has to be done intentionally. It’s entirely too easy to get caught up in the things we’ve done wrong, or even the things we didn’t do that we should’ve. In order to allow growth, you have to first accept whatever happened and let it go. I’m not saying you have to forget about it, but you shouldn’t dwell. That sort of obsession, the kind that comes with dwelling, isn’t conducive for growth. You have to let go, move on, if you plan to truly grow.

Allowing growth is such a relieving thing; being able to look back later and see where you started and how far you’ve come is truly the best feeling. So this week, let’s focus on accepting the things in our past, letting go of our inhibitions, and making space for growth. Grow into your true selves; don’t let anything hold you back, don’t allow any swelling or regretting to get in the way of your growth. It’s so crucial to allow growth; allow yourself to grow, allow others to grow. You have a bigger issue if everything and everyone always stays the same than you do if you continue to grow. It can be scary, it can be uncomfortable, it can even cause friction, but you must accept and allow growth in your life. “You’ll never get anything new if you’re always doing the same thing.” Grow, today, tomorrow, and forever.

Wishing you all a happy and safe Monday. Don’t forget to vote if you haven’t yet, and tune into my Facebook live tomorrow at 7pm EST for live election updates, what to expect tomorrow and everything you need to know about this 2020 presidential election results.