Hello, welcome back an Happy Transition Tuesday! The point of this feature is to help people navigate through planning, pregnancy, postpartum and parenthood. I feel like a great place to start this conversation is where (for most people) the conversation starts; a positive pregnancy test. So what do you do when the ClearBlue line becomes two? What options do you have? How do you tell everybody? Do you tell anybody? What should you do? Let’s get into it!
For most people, even those trying, a positive pregnancy test is shocking to say the least. At best, it’s the day you’ve dreamed and cried and prayed for but, at worst, it’s your biggest nightmare coming to life. So what options do you have? Of course, sustaining the pregnancy is a viable option, but it’s simply not realistic. Look into your local resources and schedule an appointment with either your OBGYN or a planned parenthood/pregnancy resource center. Remember that you aren’t required to tell anybody (even your presumed sperm donor) before you’re ready. At a first appointment, it is normal for a urine sample to be collected and tested followed by a blood sample. The blood sample is sent to a lab to get measurements of the amount of HCG in your bloodstream and the number is used to estimate the term of gestation (how far along you are). Although blood results can take a few days to come back (usually 24-72hrs), your doctor should give you the results and then go over your options.
If you decide not to terminate, there are some steps you should take and things you should be prepared for. Firstly, make the decision to adjust your lifestyle; caring for a baby will ALWAYS start with caring for yourself. Find some prenatals, they don’t have to be pills prescribed by your doctor, they are over the counter and more natural options. Now is also the time to start your search for a provider ! It’s important to interview providers and make sure that they align with what you want for your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum journey. Remember that your provider does not have to be in a hospital setting. Options for medical providers include Obstetricians, Certified Nurse Midwives, and Certified Professional Midwives. Look into your options and whatever you feel is best– you can always switch providers if things don’t go according to plan.
Now is also the time to build your support team. After the initial shock and usually around the time of ultimate confirmation, you’ve already told at least the person closest to you. Your boyfriend/husband, your best friend(s), your mom or your grandma; whoever that person is knows. Depending on the belief you have about spirituality and insight, that person may have called and told you before you ever even took the test. Next on the list of things to get is a doula! You can always go to my booking site for your free consultation, but I definitely encourage looking around, interviewing doulas, finding a team that really supports what you want and prioritizes your preferences.
As you search for your team and share the news with your family and friends, make sure that you remember that you are in control. Every thought, every decision, every suggestion that is made must be approved by you. You can say no, you can get a second opinion, you can have autonomy over your body! Take a class, get informed, stand your ground, and happy birthing!